Category: Dating and Relationships
Hey everyone we all know that the words I love you can hurt like a bitch expecailly when you find out that the person you say them too doesn't really mean them. So my question is how fast is too fast to use that three words. In every relationship I've been in it's been at lest three months before I say them. I need to make sure I know someone and can be there for them.
The thing is if you rush into a relationship and you don't know the person very well at first when you get with them. More than likely it could come back and bite you in the ass.
Stay friends with the one you are interested in and see where it goes from there before deciding to be more than just friends is always the safe route to go.
Sometimes that will be the case and you'll end up with some jerk wanting sex, or playin you behind your back without you knowing a thing, or someone who was desperate to be with someone just because they were lonely. Not all guys are like that though, there are some good ones out there.
I had a guy who told me he loved me three days after we'd met..that was a little soon...
There's really no set timeframe for it. It's not like a store bought product, if you get this result before 30 days then rince and repeat. If you say it before you really know you mean it, then that's too fast. If someone says it to you, and you're not absolutely certain it's the their true feelings, then that's too fast too.
There's no real way to tell if something is too fast. It's all about emotions. Sometimes you can only be dating for a week, but have known the person for a year. And you just know...you know you love them. Sometimes, love takes longer to build up. I believe you should say you love someone when you truly think you do. But don't expect them to say it back if it's really soon. I don't know...love is so complicated, yet beautiful.
I'm with trisha on that one. I can't say I love you to someone unless and until, I actually mean it. Anything sooner just doesn't feel real to me. and if I get told I'm loved before I think the other person means it, I sure as hell question them on it. I would usually ask if they're sure they mean it, and if yes, how do they know they're sure.
Ooo. I agree with Tricia.
In my opinion, you have to get to know the person a little. I don'T really believe in love at first site. But that doesn't mean you have to be friends for a long time before a relationship can be considered. For example my first boyfriend: I was in England and we talked and got to know each other first and only then we could say that we love each other. It takes some time. But it doesn't have to take months or years.
I've had several girlfriends tell me they loved me before I was ready to say that to them. If she's the right kind of girl/he's the right kind of guy, they will understand you not being able to respond back with those three words until you know it is the right time. Your heart will tell you when it is the right time. I also had a girlfriend who told me she loved me fairly early in the relationship. Obviously, I couldn't yet say that back to her and she got upset and ultimately ended the relationship. That told me something about her that I am glad I found out about early on.
I agree. I made that experience too.
I fell in love with someone practically at first sight. It took them at least 2 months after me to say it but that didn't stop the feelings I had. I just respected them that came from her and now we have rockey sometimes but very wonderful relationship.
If you are friends with someone and you just met them yesterday and they ask you out the next day, in my oppinion that's too fast. Also if you've been dating for a month or so then decide to get maried that is also too fast.
Troy
depending from person to person